Have you ever wondered why your boyfriend/brother/father/male relative/male friend just CANNOT think on the same line as you? Have you ever wondered why no matter how much you try to explain something to them, they just cannot seem to understand? And even though you love them so much that you could give your life for them, you sometimes feel like killing them yourselves? Well, that’s men for you.
Many a times, I have come across men who tell me “You women are difficult to understand.”. But no my dear friend, men are equally difficult to understand. Many men claim that they are not chauvinistic, but their deeds prove otherwise. One thing that I have learnt is that it is very difficult to find a man who not only says that he treats his partner as an equal, but also means it. When a man wants to play around and enjoy himself in his younger days, he really does not bother whom he dates. She could be the kind of person who is very physical with everyone, he doesn’t mind. She could be a frequent clubber, drinker, smoker, he doesn’t mind. She could be going out and coming back home late, he doesn’t mind. She could have already lost her virginity to someone else, he doesn’t mind. After all, this generation is all about being open minded and carefree. However, when it comes to choosing his life partner, a mother for his children, all these factors matter to him regardless of what he does himself! What happens when you get married, and the man of the house has the final say? Ask yourself, why? What happened to the “equality”?
Another thing that I have noticed is that men, are never satisfied. I am not saying that all men are like that, but generally, it happens. I am also not saying that all women are always satisfied, but like I said, I am talking about the majority here. I am sure many ladies here would agree with me that even if you give your man EVERYTHING you can possible give, it’s never enough? He just never seems to realize that what you have given him IS your EVERYTHING. He never seems to realize your sacrifices for him, or he just chooses to be oblivious to them. He does not realize how faithful you are to him, but instead puts his pleasure and happiness first while repeating the same old excuse, “Men have their needs”. Well my dear boys out there, we women have OUR needs as well, and sometimes they are much more difficult to meet than yours… but to us, YOU are more important. We put you in front of us before doing things. We consider your feelings and emotions before indulging in something… So please, at least try to appreciate that fact and reciprocate the commitment that we put in the relationship because if you don't, remember that there is a level to patience[WARNING: MEN, DO NOT BE INSENSITIVE]. And to the men I know of who have been blind to the love of your girlfriends/wives and who have gone astray seeking happiness from other women, shame on you! You do not deserve the love and respect of any woman!
One more thing that we women are tired of is your excuse of not doing something because you are unable to multi-task. The reason why I am using the word “excuse” here is because you know very well that it’s not easy for you to multi task, but you don’t even try. Multi tasking is about mental co-ordination and it can be trained up. While surfing the net a few days ago, I came across 2 interesting diagrams explaining how the minds of men and women work and I feel it is a very good illustration indeed.
The diagram of the mind of a man shows all the doors to his activities closed except for the activity he is currently engaged in. For example, when he is going to work from home, he steps out of home, shuts the door behind him, opens the door to work and once again shuts the door behind him.
The woman on the other hand, leaves the doors to all her activities open, therefore allowing herself to enter any one of them and move around freely. However, you will notice that a door to a room called “personal" is shut. This illustrates that she puts all other needs in front of her except for her personal needs and wants. This shows the reason why she is able to care for her family while sacrificing many other things. I am of the opinion that men too should be like that. They should learn how to use more of the white matter(a tissue) in their brain rather than the gray matter all the time.
There are many many more things that I can add to this post, but this post is not meant to criticize men or to pin point their mistakes. We women have our fair share of faults as well. However, this post is meant to encourage men to appreciate, respect, love and give their 100% commitment to their partners. Remember, “What you don’t want her to do unto you; you don’t do unto her” simply because, what goes around, comes around!
